The years nobody prepares you for start at six.

For five years you are drowning in guidance. Then school takes over and the advice narrows to marks — while a child between six and twelve is deciding what is fair, what is worth lying about, and how much of themselves to show you.

Children do not take values from instruction. They take them from an adult admitting what they got wrong. This page is one person's argument, said in the first person, with no research quoted at you.